Women of Worth

Have you ever been told you couldn’t do something because of your gender? Girls you can’t play in the mud and get dirty, play sports, be loud, be fat, be hairy lol, etc. Guys you can’t like shopping, romance, arts and crafts, be sensitive, or being a genuinely sweet person etc.

So what would you do, if someone told you couldn’t do something because you were a woman? That you weren’t good enough because you were “just a girl”?

When did ” you do that like a girl” or “you’re such a girl” become an insult?

How can being who we biologically are, be something bad or negative?

Like in these videos, #Like a Girl and #Unstoppable

we have to teach ourselves and the people around us that being a girl isn’t something bad. It doesn’t mean you are inferior, weak, or unable to do something.

The glass ceiling that is visible and invisible needs to be broken! And it starts with YOU! It starts with ME. If you are a girl, own who you are and don’t let anything stop you, especially something you can not help like being a GiRL.

If you are like me, you grew up in a family where anything was possible. 

As the oldest child, I quickly became the “all in one” child of the house. If my dad needed help building something he called me, If my mom needed help cleaning or cooking she asked for my help. If my sisters needed help with their homework or wanted me to play with them I became their friend. There wasn’t a situation in my household that “because I was a woman” I couldn’t do.

My dad especially instilled in me to be a strong independent self-sufficient woman. We even used to be part of a father daughter organization like girl scouts but we actually would do what boy scouts did. We pitched tents, slept in the wilderness, learned to shoot, etc. I fell in love with nature because I cherished this time of not only being close to be my dad but even being close to my heavenly father.

 During my childhood, I also loved Barbies. I had over 20+ Barbies I played with them till I was 13. I would be being creative that way and make clothes and furniture for them and I sewed and made pillows for the longest time and just a bunch of diy projects. But at the same time I loved video games playing with my Gameboy and running outside with the neighborhood guys riding our bikes and playing in the mud and playing with the worms and doing “guy stuff”.

I didn’t know that being a girl or being a guy was all that different from each other.

Unfortunately, when middle school started, puberty happened. The guys I used to hangout with realized girls were gross to hangout with but were fine to date.

I had always been a girly girl but 5th and 6th grade rapidly escalated that. Name brands became a huge thing and I was wasting so much money on Limited Too, Hollister, Abercrombie, Aeropostale, all those name brand clothes. Makeup, hair, the way you looked became a huge thing. And so evolved this girl that wasn’t sure how to really balance her feminine side with everything she had grown up with. I was never the pretty one, the tall one, the super nice one,  

And soon I became the no one.

Growing up though, when you’re surrounded by guys “who automatically step into their “I am great mentality” but being a girl you are told to be quiet or less bossy, it’s hard to think of yourself as something. And from then on I always thought of myself as a nobody.

Someone mediocre, not someone with any real talents. I hated interviews because you have to be able to sell yourself, and when they ask you about your strengths you come up with some kind of nonsense but when it comes to the weaknesses, you can go on and on forever. So I wasn’t really sure what to do with myself. And as I got older it really just got worse and worse.

The transition from middle school to high school was awful and I just felt like I kept losing myself and that I didn’t have any worth. I kept going to jesus camps that really was opening up my spirituality but I was doing nothing to help my mental state of being just a girl. I started to do only girly things. If it had anything to do with

I’m tired of people giving the same excuse over and over. I’m not good enough. I’m not ready. I’m scared. Or I love when they try to make a joke  or laugh when someone says something great over their life. Stop making excuses for yourself because so what? You are basing your achievements on yourself and not on God’s abilities. You can’t say your not good enough or qualified enough because God doesn’t call the qualified. He qualifies the called! And He is calling YOU.

You are beautiful, you are talented, you are strong, you are worthy! Stop thinking yourself as anything less! YES YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! 

I had the chance to be part of an all women’s worship team and I always thought about my talents when I’m with them. Not because I’m insecure, but because I honestly believe I am probably the least talented person on the  team.  But as much as I’d like to quit due to my lack of talent, I can’t. It would be hypocritical of me to try to motivate other women with trying to do something with their abilities and talents, and me just up and quit.  Even when you feel you are inadequate for the job, you can’t give up. The great wall of china wasn’t built in a day, Michael Jordan become the best basketball player in a season.  And as a wise friend once told me, God sees your willingness over your ability to play. And really that is what makes you valuable in the kingdom: your willingness to do something for the Lord and for others. When you find your worth in Christ, then everything else seems to fade away. The worth that people see in you is nothing compared to the way God sees you. YOU are his beautiful bride, the daughter of the most high king, the proverbs 31 woman, and last but definitely not least you are HIS.

When God knows where you are, it doesn’t matter if anyone else notices you..